Thin Places by Mary DeMuth

by Joan C Webb on March 9, 2010

Thin-Places-Cover-206x300Abuse Reality: Every two minutes, someone in the U.S. is sexually assaulted and of the millions of sexual abuse and rape victims, 15 percent are under the age of 12, according to a 2007 study by the U.S. Department of Justice. Critically acclaimed author Mary DeMuth is among the millions of adults who are victims of childhood rape and are living with the emotional scars of the haunting abuse.

It’s a sad reality. In my life coaching, speaking/teaching, mentoring and travels, I’ve heard the stories from some of those other women who like Mary have experienced the confusion and hurt of abuse and unfairness. I think they could read respected author Mary DeMuth’s latest book and identify–and not feel so alone.

Someone Understands: DeMuth bravely shares her painful story in her new memoir, Thin Places (February 2010). Repeatedly raped by two neighborhood boys at a young age, DeMuth details her traumatic and disturbing childhood in the memoir. Raised in a broken home, she lost her biological father when she was ten and was stripped of her innocence growing up in an unstable environment where drugs were commonplace.

A few weeks ago, I got Mary’s book, Thin Places, and began reading it at night by the light of a tiny lamp that I clipped to the book’s back cover. I could hardly put it down when I had to go to sleep. I agree with another author friend who said Mary’s memoir is a raw, real and hope-filled message.

Hope and Healing: Thin Places is more about healing than it is about the traumatic events of DeMuth’s childhood. According toMary-Demuth-6-II-300x199 DeMuth, thin places are “snatches of time, moments really, when we sense God intersecting our world in tangible, unmistakable ways.” When she encountered the true love of Jesus at a Young Life camp in high school, DeMuth’s life trajectory changed. God reassembled the pieces of her emotionally fragile self, which initiated true healing and peace.

“Folks may wonder why I’ve spent all this time looking back,” says DeMuth, “dredging up what God sees of my story, what my eyes see. Jesus says truth sets people free. This is my way of doing that—of telling the stark truth on the page so others can be set free.”

I (Joan) understand what Mary means. My own mission statement is: Empowered by my deepening friendship with the Triune God, I help set people free (to become who God designed them to be and from what holds them back.) Remembering is part of that–and it’s okay with God. The word “remember” is mentioned at least 166 times in the Bible. I recommend you read Mary DeMuth’s memoir, Thin Places, and discover how God has worked in your life in the past and how He wants to bring hope and healing to you in the now. Learn more about Mary at http://marydemuth.com.

Parts of this book review blog have been adapted from http://www.blogtourspot.com/2010/02/thin-places-blog-tour

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Controlling & Forcing “Love”

by Joan C Webb on February 15, 2010

LOVE CAN BE CONFUSING

Yesterday was LOVE day 2010. Love is a feel-good emotion. :-P Yet it can be confusing. :-? At times I think I’ve tried to control the way my spouse, friends and family show their love for me. Over the years in my coaching and mentoring work, I’ve noticed others do this, too. To fulfill our personal dreams, we sometimes push our “loving” ideas on others. Yet this type of love can be limiting. It inhibits intimacy and contentment.  True love resists imposing our perfectionistic concepts of love on one another.

CHARACTERISTICS OF HEALTHY LOVE

Healthy love relationships include these characteristics:

1. Allowing for individuality. Differing talents or temperaments do not threaten true love. Feelings and thoughts can be expressed without fear.

2. Not attempting to change the other. We may not like everything about our partner, yet when we consider the total picture we are able to be more accepting.

3. Caring with detachment. Healthy love cares, listens, and responds; yet does not try to fix or remove the uncomfortable feelings of the lover or loved one.

4. Affirming equality of self and partner. A mature relationship treats the partners as equals. There is no sense of competition, one-upmanship or power-posturing.

LOVE–A JUGGLING ACT?

When we practice mature love, we accept what the other person is able or willing to give at the current moment. We allow each other space to grow and develop.

I’m asking God to teach me more about love. I don’t wish to make inappropriate demands. At the same time, I want to be real, authentic and upfront. Truthfully, it can feel like a juggling act. What do you think?



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Helping Hurting People

February 2, 2010

The Gift Goes On
Haiti and other hurting places: As I hear about the hurting men, women, and children of Haiti and watch the caring people who’ve chosen to help, I’m reminded of a story. A young friend told me about her recent missions trip.  “It was dark, dirty work,” she said.  “Yet, it was [...]

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Give Me Air!

January 27, 2010

Around 2:30 this morning I finished reading Mary DeMuth’s new book, Thin Places, a heart-wrenching memoir of abuse, imperfection, and healing. (More about that in a future blog!) Then after going back to sleep for awhile, I worked in the Mending the Soul workbook by Celestia Tracy (following-up on classes I took last week about [...]

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Back to Reality in 2010!

January 12, 2010

Intentional Get-Away I said I’d do it and I did! For over three weeks, I didn’t blog, Twitter, Facebook, write, work, go on appointments, answer phones, manage or market anything or do any life coaching. In fact, I didn’t even take my laptop on our “intentional get-away” adventures. How sweet it was! I’m grateful. Now, [...]

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Happy Birthday, Jesus!

December 10, 2009

I’ll be away over the holidays and back with a new blog in January 2010. Here’s a Christmas story for you to share with your family. Enjoy!
THE MOST BIRTHDAY PARTIES! A CHILD’S CHRISTMAS STORY

_________________, whose birthday do we celebrate at Christmastime? (Fill in the blank with your child/grandchild’s name.) Yes, Jesus’ birthday. [...]

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Give-Away Fun at Christmas!

December 7, 2009

WIN TWO AUTOGRAPHED COPIES OF IT’S A WONDERFUL (IMPERFECT) LIFE
What’s your slightly imperfect Christmas reality this year? (Hey, even Jesus was born into imperfect surroundings!) Leave me a note below with your response to this question. I’d love to hear from you. Then I’ll enter you in a December 9 drawing for 2 FREE autographed [...]

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Slightly Imperfect Christmas Reality

December 4, 2009

WONDERFUL, BUT NOT PERFECT!
It’s that time of year again—when we celebrate Christ’s birthday. I’m surrounded by twinkling lights on the Christmas tree, garlands lining the windows and fragrant (cinnamon-vanilla!) candles. It’s wonderful, but everything’s not perfect.
I haven’t had time to color-coordinate the gift wrapping (something I really enjoy doing) or make any cookies (that’s not [...]

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Thankful for this??

November 25, 2009

Ironic Gratitude
I tried to hide it, but after a while it oozed out. Against all my resolve to “pray and serve” it away. The work, overwork, obsessive caring, disappointments, denial, exhaustion, pretending, pain, threatened relationships, physical illness, confusion, and isolation spun into burnout. Not my plan.
It led to the loss of a career, my dreams, [...]

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The Power of Devotions

November 18, 2009

Devotions Encourage Power to Pray
Reading devotional books has enriched my life as a girl, woman, student, wife, mother, friend, teacher, coach and writer. When I was a young teenager, a friend gave me a book entitled A Diary of Private Prayer by John Baillie. Each time I read one of the devotional prayers my own [...]

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